Overcoming mother guilt

Overcoming mother guilt

“There is a perceived notion that the mother has to be “everything”, and as a result many mothers suffer in silence.” Dr Oscar Serrallach The monster of mother guilt A big part of my work involves supporting mothers as they reconcile their needs and...
Do you care too much?

Do you care too much?

Have you ever felt resentment towards someone or something you cared about? They matter to you, yet they have mostly become a source of anxiety, anger, worry. You end up blaming them for your woes and overwhelmed by guilt as a result. Well, this could be a sign that...
When the good girl has had enough…

When the good girl has had enough…

This is a poem by Barbara K. Basset called Angela’s word. A powerful description of a woman’s experience recognising and overcoming the good girl syndrome. When Angela was very young,Age two or three or so,Her mother and her fatherTaught her never to say...
Tips to avoid maternal burnout

Tips to avoid maternal burnout

Perfectionism is not a healthy habit. Even less so when it comes to motherhood, unless you’re keen to rub shoulders with overwhelm, resentment, rage and the feeling of never being satisfied, which can eventually lead to maternal burnout. Here is the new mantra you can...
Boost your energy levels naturally

Boost your energy levels naturally

Our energy is one of our most precious resources, and the good news is that it can be maintained and renewed, like the batteries in our phone. We often choose to wait for our energy to be totally depleted before we consider recharging. Which eventually leads to stress...
Musings on work-life balance

Musings on work-life balance

Here are some things I’ve come to appreciate about work-life balance, in the context of motherhood. Most of the ideas and principles are applicable to anyone who is committed to living life more intentionally. What are you aiming for? Well-meaning advice on work-life...
Motherhood: the making of you

Motherhood: the making of you

“In giving birth to our babies, we may find that we give birth to new possibilities within ourselves.”Myla and Jon Kabat-Zin I never thought motherhood would be such a challenging and transformative experience for me. In hindsight, I realise that it started well...